tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post6296918480334826869..comments2024-03-20T00:16:36.264-07:00Comments on 2nd Sex: LonelinessLillie Yifuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10647849826458298630noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post-16077446875745077332007-06-06T10:16:00.000-07:002007-06-06T10:16:00.000-07:00Well Munnin, that's why the good people are so muc...Well Munnin, that's why the good people are so much more precious. Both you and stone are good people, and I'm glad you both are taking time out from your busy day's to comment on my little blog.Lillie Yifuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10647849826458298630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post-31324160726486530062007-06-06T10:06:00.000-07:002007-06-06T10:06:00.000-07:00To be frank I cannot understand why people would t...To be frank I cannot understand why people would think SL would be different from RL. People are still animals, when the rules that govern behavior are removed they live down to their baser instincts. They grab for power money and sex and the ability to lord what they have over others. When they are hurt it makes them more hurtful rather than more compassionate. Kissing up and kicking down seem to be the order of the day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post-35733349877112811592007-06-06T09:49:00.000-07:002007-06-06T09:49:00.000-07:00Hmmm, I should have written better. But that's a b...Hmmm, I should have written better. But that's a blog, mistakes disappear off the bottom.<BR/><BR/>Yes, that ghost dance at the margins is what I am thinking of, even as I am probably contributing to it by building Yedo.Lillie Yifuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10647849826458298630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post-75982394003543664812007-06-06T09:00:00.000-07:002007-06-06T09:00:00.000-07:00I apologize for missing your point.It is true that...I apologize for missing your point.<BR/><BR/>It is true that "the sprawl" is ever-present here. In SL, people always think they can make the next "place-to-be". There is far more involved than just opening your doors, raising your hands and screaming "We're open!". As a shop-owner and a PR Manager, I have seen how hard it is first-hand. It is better to start small and expand than start big and not meet your own expectations unless you have alot of money to throw at it.<BR/><BR/>But, yes... this dilution of the SL space is causing lots of free-range Sims with ghostly shells rising from the ground, exhibiting peoples' dreams and aspirations that never quite reach fruition. It is to those people- havens they flock to, these epicenters of community that seem to flourish amidst the emptiness.Dan Tannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18032372945447835507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post-61825826240285876082007-06-06T08:28:00.000-07:002007-06-06T08:28:00.000-07:00Hello Stone,There is a great deal of very good adv...Hello Stone,<BR/><BR/>There is a great deal of very good advice in your comment: be social, learn from others, get to people's true self, and realize that it is your true self that shines through in the end. <BR/><BR/>SL is a game of people, not a game of things, and it seems that when people fail at the game of people, they go back to creating things.<BR/><BR/>But what I'm writing about is a more pervasive kind of loneliness, the one which makes people withhold much of themselves, and stay in the cliques they form once they have them. It's why when a place forms that breaks through that, people are drawn to it, and stay there.<BR/><BR/>It is that loneliness which presses in from the edges, a kind of cold dark that is everywhere in SL. I think because so much of sl is actually empty, kilometers of rotating for sale signs, interspersed with attempts to create community. It seems to me that sprawl is one of the things that is strangling people in sl.<BR/><BR/>Lillie YifuLillie Yifuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10647849826458298630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8535237502203989352.post-60129756149091794372007-06-06T08:00:00.000-07:002007-06-06T08:00:00.000-07:00Hey, Lillie... =-]I think the thing that brings u...Hey, Lillie... =-]<BR/><BR/>I think the thing that brings us to SL is one of a handful of things. One is simple curiosity while another is the desire to seek out others and fill the needs missing in RL. Many find shelter in SL because of the personal interactions and freedoms it provides.<BR/><BR/>Those first few days are always rich with exploration and learning, but there is also the fear that you don't know anyone. You don't have anyone to share the experience with. Eventually, you do find someone to spend your time with, and you latch on to them as your SL liferaft.<BR/><BR/>Eventually, you broaden out and seek to make more friends and have more experiences. The loneliness thing creeps in ocassionally, but as long as you make it an active point to be social, you should have nothing to worry about. Every person has something they're good at doing. Most are willing to share their knowledge because most people are kind-at-heart. SL allows people to exhibit their more True Self and most people are genuinely NICE.<BR/><BR/>For those who are lonely and do not have high-end social graces. My best advice would be to sit back and observe. I was not always the Alpha Male I strive to be today (SL/RL). I was once a guy who had NO clue how to talk with women or how to present myself in such a manner as to be deemed "appealing". I decided to sit back and watch people as they interact. Look at males who did a great job of attracting women. What traits did they have (aside from looks) that allowed them to be successful. Also, one of these guys, who is a good friend of mine today took me under his wing to teach me. Find yourself a mentor, someone who is willing to show you how it's done.<BR/><BR/>SL grants you the ability to become your vision of yourself without the need for exercise or diet. This draws the opposite sex to you. However, what's behind the mask is what truly lets you sink your teeth in. Without the proper interactive graces, you will falter. You will remain lonely. But, remember... "There are no failures, merely delayed successes" (Isaac Asimov).<BR/><BR/>Your day will come. If you commit to truly making an effort to combat the loneliness and learn proper interactions, and you will not be one of the random "noobs" bloggers write about (lol). ;-]Dan Tannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18032372945447835507noreply@blogger.com