How to get hot fast and cheap

This is what I looked like when I was spawned, I use the term "spat out," on the left, and what I look like now on the right. Looking at my avatar the first day I broke down and cried for half an hour. You could not have made worse choices for a start than I did. The next bad surprise was when I started to try and move the avatar, I waddled like I had a full diaper.

Yes, yes Lillie, you are saying, but you think nothing of dropping 5K in a day on clothes. However, look closely, the now still has both a free skin, a version of a free body, and free eyes. I may be wearing Style 0's wonderful Eleanor, and DE Design's Mirror Queen, but underneath is a girl you could pull out of free boxes and fiddle your way to. I have two high priced skins, one for close face work and the other for the, ummmm, "bits". But much of the time I'm wearing something that is there for the taking. And, you know, it's hard for me to walk around without getting propositioned.

So how to do it? Here we go. Someday there will be more "Jill in a box" like at Calla but for now, girls, and especially boys, need to go on an adventure. It's not so bad, by the time you are done, you will know SL much better, and many of these stores will be your mainstays for some time to come.

Here is how it works. An avatar is made up of pieces, including some for things that you usually would not think of as pieces, like your face and your skin. The pieces need to be assembled in a particular order to get a good look. The first piece is a "shape," which is your basic wire frame, the form over which everything else goes. However, what people will see is your "skin" because so many of our clues, especially in the one eye world of sl, are from shading and color. Later we will put this all together, but for today, it is just about grabbing things. Lunch on freebies, then sort. After that you add an Animation Override or "AO", and prim hair. This plus some better clothes will be all you need to join sl, and not be "playdo".

Blessed by Free Dove

Your first step is to get "Blessed by Free Dove." This is the gateway to looking human. First step away from the teleport area. Free Dove is crowded, and there are people dropping in all the time. The two most important tables are to your left and your right as you enter. There are skins and shapes and a female AO on the right, and for girls a selection of free clothes that you will want to grab all of. But left first.

Rez.

No, really, rez for a while.

I'm sorry, did I mention rezing? Well it depends on time of day, computer connection and graphics.

Oh and while you are waiting, you have opened up preferences, in the "Edit" menu, and turned your graphics rendering down to 64M or 32M, yes? No? In preferences, there is a tab labelled "graphics". Click on that. Now there is a box with "render distance". Set that to 32 or 64, because there's nothing scenic about your route today. But you will be more scenic at the end.

On that right hand table, s you face into Free Dove, you'll know because there are large friendly "No weapons" and "No nudity" signs visible. It should tell you something, that something is may of the boys come here, and their first instinct is to run around with a cock hanging out, or carry around an sword or gun that doesn't do anything. I know, enough of them wander up to me and start a conversation with "You're hot!" Thanks dear, I get paid upwards of 3K for an hour of sex, I think I could have guessed that. These people require some house breaking before they get to the rest of SL. Hence the friendly signs at Free Dove.

Anyway, back to the table on your right. Things in here are either bought for 0L, that means right click and buy for 0L, or touched. If you don't see a buy menu, try touch. Somethings have a linden cost. You don't need any of them.

There are boxes on the table with pictures of bodies. In here are basic body and skin types. Why they don't just give you these choices on the island, I don't know. It's their world, we just pay rent on it.

Boys you are going to get your first lesson in SL, namely, it is better to be a girl for fashion. You have two choices, the large face which is almost directly in front of you as the knight of the round table body, and the white box on the other side of the table with a man in a swimsuit. You then have to walk around the table to see another box, which has two not very good skins from Opium.

For girls, there is more, go through and gram the white box with pink letters, the pink ring, which has a serviceable female AO, the purple boxes and the white boxes with women on them. That's enough to get you started here. Since you are here, pillage the clothes boxes on your left. You can keep grazing your way around the corner to your left and on the table straight ahead.

Both boys and girls will want to take a left hand turn, and then turn right. Keep going, there is a tree with purple leaves out the window, if you don't see that you've missed a turn someplace or need glasses even more than my avatar does. (Is there script call that will reset preferences? I want a set of scripted glasses.....)

Keep going until you reach hair on the left, and forma wear and gowns on the right. Boys, you need Vindi Vindaloo's white tux, shoes, underwear. Four boxes in all on your right. Boys and girls, get all of the sets of free prim hair to your left. For boys it is up a bit.

Girls you can get the proton pony tail pack, which is adorably cute, and the White Lies Collection, in addition to Calla's nice, if a bit junior promy, freebie collection for women. Also nice to have here, is the Eolande accessories because it has a pose stand. This will come in handy later.

Boys, you are basically done here, girls, keep grazing your way up the tables. I'm particularly fond of the grey blox way near the end of the tables on the right which has a reasonably good prim sandal from Dellycious.

Time to grow up

You have in inventory enough to look much better right now. Many avatars look distinctly teenage, so it is also time to grow up as well. What you need to do now is go to a public sandbox, so you can unpack the first round of your booty, and you will actually have one when it comes to that.

Boys, your body choices are simple. Make one, toss on an Opium skin, but if you are younger than 30 days, this is strictly temporary. Girls, you have too many choices. It is going to take you a while to go through them. Again, don't think this is your final look, just enough to get you out of the newbie status.

Now put on a "bald" hairpiece. I'm about to try and explain one of the most counter-intuitive concepts in SL fashion. Basically, we are all from the baroque era. Back in the 18th century, in Europe, where bathing was only just in fashion, people shaved their hair, and wore elaborate wigs. So when you see pictures of all those baroque beauties with hair piled high, realize that many of them were shaved bald underneath. One reason that country girls started to go into fashion, was that they still had all their hair.

Except for special circumstances, like big concerts and a few very specific hair styles, you won't be wearing newbie hair again, instead, you will be wearing a prim hair wig, attached to the skull. It won't be a "hair" piece in your inventory, but a cube "object," like any other kind. It will come off if you "detatch all." Sometimes a bad teleport will leave your hair style in your crotch. I know some men like "a nice full bush," but that is ridiculous. From now on, it is almost always a fashion mistake in your life, to be wearing anything but prim hair.

Right, ditsy Lillie. "Prim" stands for "primitive," which is a graphics primitive. The basic unit of drawing and accounting for land, and building, in SL. Prim hair is made up of primitives like a house, or vehicle is. Prim skirts, or prim collars, or prim cuffs, like prim hair, all attach some place.

So you are going to wear a "bald" piece, I think the Calla box has one. Then, and only then, can you fit hair on. Some of it is going to look awful, because the prim hair is sized, and it might not be the right size for your head. This can be fixed later. For now just find one that works.

Next post, free linden land, Platinum, TAP and coupon shopping.

But this is enough for this installment, I need to get to the floor at Sexcino and then work on Yedo.

More later dears.

Yedo Tower Almost Completed

Rezilicious

New skin, Zoe from Naughty Island. There look is very Italian, so I have to set many face elements rather small.

But don't be afraid of slider 100 or slider 0.

You are going to be obsolete

Take a look at this demo realize that the retail avs we are all wearing are about to be obsolete, because there are companies and people who can pay these kinds of prices. What is a hot barbie today, in 6 months will be looked at the way playdo is now.

Real money is coming to sl, and out here there is a huge difference between rich and poor. There isn't as much on sl as you might think, the best looking avatars aren't that much more realiztic than what you can get on about 200L. Better, but not a different level. If you do a standard make over in Linden, 10K of our local lira buys you a clearly better look, but I get more offers than even the most willing slut could handle on skin and clothes that are not that expensive. That is, you look better than a default, but primarily you look more individual.

What Kim Balatron and her group are doing, is on another level. While I can't publish their prices, they are substantially above what you would pay in world.

Sex 360: How to Have Good SL Sex

Around 9 SLT I went Shemale Sanctuary I picked up a very very very pretty shemale, with a luminous skin and big eyes. At first she thought I wanted to have sex on the 15 framer attached to a table, but I told her I wanted to go back to my place. We had terrible sl sex. The word in the business is zombie sex, just as away campers with anti-idle set (so they don't get logged out) are called zombies. A zombie facial is a blow job where you do all the work and they just sit there. I'd have had sex with her again, if it had been worth having for me. She enjoyed it of course. At the end, I told her that there wasn't any more. It felt terrible saying it, because she was pretty pretty pretty.

Body by venus, cocksmanship by pluto.

The whole point was I was looking for a guy who wouldn't commit the two great sins of guy sl sex. The first is rolling over and playing dead, the second is telling the girl what she is supposed to be feeling, and deliberately typing things that are designed to shock the rl player in a kind of virtual violation. OK there are lots of sl girls who get off on this, but not me. Mostly.

Seriously, they have cock rings to keep blood in a man's member after he has come so he can keep at it. I want to try the experiment of fitting one around his neck, because it seems like all the blood drains from his head at the wrong moments.

If you want to know why I charge for virtual sex, it's because most people who want virtual sex, are so baaaaaaad at it. If it is about you just getting what you want, why should I take up my time for nothing? The toys, the experience, even the internet connection, weren't free for me. The people who loudly proclaim they don't pay for sex are often really saying they only rape stupid girls who don't know any better.

Yes I was going to post the free make over guide, but this was just so important to me to write about, that I couldn't finish it without getting this down first.

This brings me to haveing good sex on sl. You don't have to use all the tools all the time, but if you never use the tools, you are missing out.

The first tool of good sl sex is, of course the chat/IM window. If you aren't typing well, well, you aren't doing anything but lining up dummies on poseballs and watching them while you... fill in your favorite verb here.

There are several tools in chat, including gestures for sounds and other commands. But let me cover the two most important ones. One is, of course, what you say. If your whole sex dialog doesn't get pased your native language's version of "I love you" and "I feel so good", then the dialog isn't very interesting. One of the sexiest things in sl sex is watching someone go from dialog down to grunts and squeels, because you know that you are virtually, and literarily, fucking the brains out. But in order to fuck their brains out, as a friend tells me, it helps if the partner has a brain to start with.

This means that telling the other person exactly how you feel, in more detail, helps a lot. Talking about your own needs and wants, helps alot. Relating this to things behind the present sexual moment, helps alot. A cartoon, is flat. Cartoon sex is flat emotionally. 3D is in, so to talk 360, talk at least occasionally, in full sentences.

The other key tool is the /me command. All it really does is remove that colon between your name and your text. But removing a colon is a big thing, ask anyone who has had it done. Without the colon, what you type is taken as an action. Asterix, is for amateurs. So if I type, in either chat or IM:

/me brushes her lips tenderly along your cheek.

will be seen as

Lillie Yifu brushes her lips tenderly along your cheek.

This is called an emote, and it is a key skill. In fact it is one of the key dividing lines. Go down to a top club. You will see the emotes flying - girls will be talking about how they are touching themselves, where and what the results are. All the time.

Really, it may not be all about /me, but it is close.

But there are tricks. Every emote starts with your name, so you have to phrase things carefully sometimes. The other part is that it is dommie to tell the other person what he or she feels so if a man does:

/me presses into you and you come because of his big cock inside of you.

That's the other sin of cocksmanship. Taking away the other person's ability to interact. Now if you have permission, master/slave, to do that, ok. But otherwise. Well again, if you want to tell me how I feel, you have to pay for the privilege.

So having an arsenal of emotes is a good thing. Another good thing is emoting to emphasize the animation, or riffing off of it. For example, if I am swinging around a pole, my silks flowing behind me:

/me flutters above the onlookers, her silks trailing behind her like streamers.

One time this is particularly useful is when you change animations in bed. For example in BDSM scene:

/me cries out in terror as the chains roughly yank her arms behind her back and pull her neck down exposing the pink lips of her sex to the onlookers.

Ah right, we haven't talked about that, changing positions. But let me cover one thing. So when you do start getting, well, flustered and are having trouble focusing, it gets sexy to be reduced down to grunts and squeals, because well, it shows, rather than tells, that she is... um... working that other little red nipple, on your built in laptop. Or the big joystick for you guys.

However, to keep things going even when typing one handed, why not have somethings typed in on an outside notecard, and

triple click
copy
move
click
paste


Another big dividing line between good and bad sl sex is using menu driven poses. Now with great typing you can have great sex with someone you like just on one pose ball, in fact, one can be imaginative as to how to have do it with a single animation, particularly if it is say, a public kiss. Use IM and emote, and you can be doing it while everyone is around, and no one will know. Though they may suspect that 15 minutes on one kiss pose ball means something.

Another exception, before I get to the rule, is BDSM, where being caught in one pose is part of the sexy. But again, emotes should underline this:

/me strains against the restraining bar as her muscles burn from being held like this for an hour, and sweat pours from her arms and legs from the pain and tension.

But in general, for it to be good, it has to be menu driven.

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There are many makers of sex beds on SL, more and more small makers are coming out all the time as more and more people learn the scripts. The biggest ones are SexGen and SexxxDrive. I really like to point out the work of Paul Lobo at enjoy because he has the best animations for the boyz, and the grrl's bed at Lovers Playground. But there has been an explosion of makers of sex beds, because the script isn't really that hard, and there are tons of free sex animations out there. Load two pose balls, write up the positions, load, and there you go...

I will do my complaining about all of them later, but for now, let's look at how much better they all are than wompa wompa wompa on the pose ball.

The first obvious thing is freedom of choice. People move around in rl bed, and different postions have different sensations. This goes hand in hand with emoting, because this brings together why you are in a particular position, and it isn't just about which which hole you can reach more easily. Some are about stimulation on the inside, some are about deep penetration, some are about being able to stimulate in particular ways or particular places. If you know this, then describe it.

A lot of men learning to be better lovers go through a slobber stage. They describe in voluminous detail exactly how much attention their tongue is paying to your clit. Now attention, particularly lavish attention, is good. But there is a point where it is clear the guy is getting off on his typing and has forgotten about you. When you spend more time describing the liquids than the girl, then it isn't about the girl any more. I don't need really graphic descriptions about exactly where my effluvia is going. It doesn't really do it for me, or for most girls. The ones that like it, like to do it themselves.

The key is interaction, because that is the big difference. This isn't a "World of Whorecraft", where players spend their time interacting with things that are not players. Instead, what is important is that when you are with me, or anyone, there is a player on the other side. And that player reacts, thinks, feels and desires. I've made the slobber mistake witha client once, and it was a sharp rebuke. But the client was right, if I forget about them, then I've forgotten the point. The same applies to most people.

Interaction is underlined when emotes and animations go together, it is underlined when there is a story, and that story moves forward with both people together add to it.

So pose balls add to interaction by having a flow. The classic flow is from the kisses and cuddles, through the phases of arousal like petting and oral sex, to the harder arousal, like 69, to penetration in its various forms, and then back to after play, that kiss cuddle phase where emotional promises are made. Those sweet lies of forever, even if it is the last time you will see the other person. We need those sweet lies, because they are a different truth. When you are alone with someone after an intense experience, you can really see forever.

So far, in this blog, the language has been hard edged, partially because mechanics, game mechanics, are so much a part of doing things well. Pixel pushing, commands, pose balls, all of this, is like using the arrow keys or the pie menus. It is an ominpresent part of of our time in world. Breaking through that, into those second life moments that last, and which are beyond the manipulation of the world, are the point of learning these things. When the avatar, and his or her surroundings, become as natural to manipulate as real things in the real world.

There is a dizzy moment of things spinning out of control as you see, read, and then feel the unexpected. When the screen talks to you about the person on the other side, and what he or she feels. On the text internet, we are all screaming at each other. Here we get to send, deliberately and clearly, those non-verbal clues of gesture and motion that say so much which is outside of the range of hearing.

I've had several of those moments, when a well chosen change of position, with a well written emote, and then a bit of dialog, tell me something about how someone feels. I will remember these, as you will remember yours. I can remember a moment where I started dancing with someone, and told her "I want a romance, with you" There was a long pause, I knew the answer was no. She started. I told her "Hush, I know"

It wasn't a moment during sex, but it was a moment which touched me.

Getting such moments to happen, is the reason for learning to use the world, far beyond the pose and jerk that many people seem to find enough for them.

The ability to flow through a story, creates that ripe moment in real life, where you let yourself go, and feel for another person who you will never see, and never meet, and probably never talk to in person.

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Just as you can have good sl sex with a pose ball and good dialog, you can have good sl sex with just posing and talking. But to take it farther, to do something which pushes it beyond you need to do xcite or sensations. I strongly prefer xcite.

Xcite consists of attachments, which people can touch on screen to get a menu. The menu gives actions, and those actions effect the level of arousal of the xcite system. These then talk - in green, objects talk green - to tell others, and control animations and sounds.

The HUD is where it is at, because this gives you the ability to control level of arousal, see partner, touch partner even if the animation doesn't cooperate, and so on. This too creates flow. To hold back on arousal to come together, to pull back if you don't like it, and to push it up if you do.

So this is the basic sex dance, talk and emote, shift and play animations and sounds, by using pose balls or loaded sounds, click on xcite to underline the action, and use the HUD to help respond

flow through these three points, touching the bed to change positions, talking, xciting. For your own amusement, camer to the right position.

Going through these motions in a circle between screen, menu in the upper right, and then down to chat is a dance, and it is a physical sensation. The swirling movement around and around, draws the spirit into that sense of focus where the screen becomes real, and there is confusion between the second life, and the first person.

On the iTunes my guilty pleasure Micheal Bolton album, but it is going away soon, I can't take it.

Gothic L*lita

Search is one of the most broken things about SL. It is just too hard to find things, and the "traffic" number has spawned the camping and orgy industries.

However, finding things is not LL's priority, hiding them is. The real terror to LL is "age play", that is virtual pornography involving avatars that are clearly not adult. The latest casualty in this is the term "Lolita" from search. The problem is that Lolita is both the title of a real world novel, and a fashion sub-culture. More specifically, gothic lolita is a sub-genre of this.

I have a loligoth outfit, in fact, elements of it were what I got my first job at Le Club with (they aren't goth, but instead a nice small friendly club with a friendly owner in Ryde Whitman and laid back girls). Since then I went out and got hair that really goes with it (yes yes I'll post a pick of me in the outfit later as well as where I got things).

I'm told that the owner of Gothic Lolita complained, and was told "Change the name of the store."

Later, but Soon: Playdopes Anonymous

Are you in the skin you were spat out in? Spawned, born, whatever?

Then you look like hell. And these days there is no reason for it. There is enough free stuff out there to look good in one whirlwind shopping expendition. Of course putting it together takes some work, but that is what will make you, well, you.

I'm going to post this later today. In fact, they should hand you something like this when you get spat out, basically saying - "do this, and you will look good and have mastered basic second life skills."

So be prepared to join Playdopes Anonymous.

(Playdo= loudly coloured child's molding clay. Playdope is a term for clueless newbies, because if you had a clue, you wouldn't look like one.)

That's sex by Hieronymous Bosch.

My main job is as the floor manager at Sexcino a "Second Life Casino's" affiliate owned by SL Loonie and Mystic Saiman. I remember the strange days when it was booming because casinos on SL were a river of money. The girls were terrible, and no one cared, because well, the wheels were purring day and night.

Then came the gaming ban, and the places that had people kept them, and even flourished - several of the top places on sl are for gambling - and many others shut down. There are many many words written about this over on various forums. I'm not going to add to it.

instead let's talk about something else. Like sex.

If you want to start at the bottom of the SL food chain of sex, then a free sex room is where you start.

Here is one of many. Now this touches on the camping thing. These rooms generate traffic, traffic moves you up search, which brings people who might have money. But that's another day. Right now we are talking about sex by Hieronymous Bosch. Which is what a room of 50 avatars grinding on cheap pose balls with bad skins and one linden woodies is. For the uninitaiated, if there are any reading this, you have to buy working genitalia on SL, and the cheapest is a cluster of pixels that looks more like a club on a deck of cards than a real cock.

People chat things like "big cock!" "nice ass!" "ohhh baby".

Owners often run a sound track of orgy noises.

Umm yeah. If you that's what you need. Many have automated avatars that look good and have objects that repeat certain come on phrases, like "Fuck my little ass" at intervals. These are scripts, no one is actually logged into the avatar. A few have a couple of owners that play there, and you can tell them, because they are decked out with real sex toys. I saw two playing with about 10K worth of skin body and toy. The newbs of course wanted to fuck the girl - tied down with an xcite collar, and were not happy when her master, the area owner, told them to engage in autofornication.

The other people that go here are master/sub, lord/slave combos, public sex and humilation for the sub, with the added thrill of doing good sex in front of people who are getting bad sex. You can take your own animations into places, and use those. You'll know these couples when you see them. They look fiiiiiine. And they get off on having newbs lust after them. It's at least good sex.

These rooms are also packed packed packed all the time.

This gets me to the whole WoW mentality of many newbies - run around thinking that you grab things off the ground, engage in repeated dull interaction with the comptuer sim world, and one day, when you find the magic cock, you get to fuck Aphrodite.

Dozens of newbies drop in every day with this mentality. They wander around SL, look discover camping, camp, and hang out in orgy rooms. Now these rooms are doomed, age verify (another long discussion) will kill them. Age verify is a sex tax, and these are people defined by their unwillingness to spend a single cent on virtual sex.

That's sex by Hieronymous Bosch.

Now for people who are so distant from having sex, that just the idea that there are females that want to have sex. Well there it is. 15 frames of bumping can be remarkably effective. But. Umm. Wow is that ugly sex.

Now why would I know so much about these rooms? I go fishing. Not for clients, because anyone in these kinds of places doesn't have the money to get me take off my earings, with the exception of a couple of specialized places I will talk about later. No, it is a place where you can go fishing for people ready to move out of the newbie underworld and up up up into the light.

Which brings me back to Sexcino, and what we've been doing there. Next post, you are going to want to read.

Why Xcite!

OK. There are lots of topics I could start with. Really, this is big. But since no one is reading my blog yet, why start with something really fab, and have it ignored? So I am going to write something for the other working girls who are already reading this. I'm going to write about why Xcite.

Xcite is located here. It is one of the big sex toys places on sl, and when you start getting good at sl sex, you will be introduced to it. There are better looking pieces of equipment, many men go in for sculpted cocks and other accoutrements. I have visual sets for me.

But that isn't why Xcite.

Xcite really is about the HUD. This is what makes it the indespensible sex attachment system on second life.

The wud? The HUD.

Heads Up Display. And in more than one meaning of the term.

The xcite HUD is what ties the bits together, because it is another channel of communication. That channel means that the flow of text between two people slybering (yes my word, because this is my world) can be clear for roleplay, and not for clogging on responses.

Here is what I mean. Wear the HUD. Target "Them". Now you can see their level of arousal. Big deal? Well yes, because you want things in sl to come together, to make all the inputs reinforce each other. Now click "override". You can set your level. That means if you are into something, you can up the level, or if not, lower it.

Now for the next escort trick. Lower the pace of your arousal to lowest. Now you are in complete control of how much you get aroused and when everything happens. Of course setting it way up is great for putting on a show, but low and over ride means you have a channel of communication.

And sex on SL, is all about:

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That's why Xcite. I'll talk other times about how to get the most out of xcite, and post my favorite xcite hypnotizer scripts and things like that. But for now, if you have xcite, and don't have the HUD, get it. If you have the HUD, use it.

Use it well dears, it's one of the most useful toys we've got.

House Rules.

Since I am, so to speak, coming out of the closet here. I want to make somethings perfectly clear.

First, if the rules of your sim say "no freelancing" then I am not there to freelance. I'm there to dance, shop, view the pictures. Maybe I'm even there to pick someone up that I want to do, that happens too. I manage at a casino, and I have my rules there.

So if your rules say "no working without permission," then, well, I'm there as a customer not as a vendor.

This has been a notice from someone who services the public.

Thank you for not smoking.

(Oh yes, and House rules. Really. (OK I club goth more than house. Sosumi)(I script, so I should really start using those funny curly braces)))

This Is Me. Lillie.

This is a blog.

This is a blog about sex.

This is a blog about sex on Second Life.

This is a blog about sex on Second Life written by an escort.

No, really. I have virtual sex with people. For money. And I'm one of the best at it.

It is about how bad much of it is, how good it can be, how to do it better, and all sorts of other things that you'd expect from vain hair whore sex goddess in second life. And somethings you won't. Or whatever.

Let's start with the dish. I'm an rl nobody who would neveeeer escort real life. I've read blogs for about 3 years, and even left some comments. I just joined second life, and have learned too much about myself, others and mostly

about sex.

So I'm listening to Cosmic Gate, waiting for sl to come back up, and getting bored enough to do a blog. Just like I've threatened to .

Some some ground rules. I don't talk much about rl, and won't do so here. So those of you looking for an rl girlfriend, flip to the next blog. I don't kiss and tell without permission, so while I will talk about generalities, I won't go into specifics about clients or what they do or what they like. They pay for anonymity, of the same kind I enjoy. Last ground rule, I'm going to talk

about sex on second life.